The Waiting Game
Well would you look at that? As it turns out, it wasn’t just my best friends that read my first ever blog entry. Lots of other people did too, and you’ve said lovely, positive, encouraging things .. so, thank you so much if you were one of them. Looks like this might become a regular thing!
My reason for starting to write these posts is that I wanted to share a little glimpse into what I’m working towards at the moment and how I ended up here. Along the way I’m going to share with you the things I’ve learned, or for the most part, am still learning ..
Above my bed hangs a piece of art by one of my absolute favourite artists. As soon as I laid eyes on it I knew I had to have it. Scrawled across the blank face of an anonymous blonde girl are the words “Nothing Before its Time !!” Now I can’t stress this enough, accepting the meaning of those words is currently, and maybe always will be, my absolute biggest battle.
Nothing. Before. Its. Time.
I probably have to repeat that mantra to myself around ten times a day as I run into road block after road block. If you’re anything like me, i.e. fiercely ambitious and equally impatient, you’ll know exactly what I’m talking about. It can often feel, for me anyway, that for every step forward you take two back. Or at least have to pause for an unbearably long amount of time. It’s at these points when you feel like maybe everything is trying to work against you, that no one wants to help you, or that you’re being paid back by the universe for some bad karma you must have previously earned. (Maybe that’s just me?? But these are the general themes of the rants I’ve been known to regularly reel off to those closest to me). The thing about all of this though, is none of it is true. Nothing and no one is against you. It’s just you, everything you want, and the right timing, all waiting to line themselves up perfectly. I don't want to ramble on for too long even though I really could, so on the topic of the waiting game, here are a few major things I’ve learned (the hard way):
Everyone has a different destination and a different route. I don’t know how things will pan out, but I know they’ll happen when they’re meant to. If it’s taking longer than you hoped, there’s a reason. And at some point you’re going to look back and understand what that reason was.
STAY IN YOUR LANE. Social media in particular will mess you up here. Don’t worry about what anyone else is doing, or appears to be doing. Firstly, we all know that Instagram and Facebook only show us a glimpse into the reality of someone’s life. Secondly, it has NOTHING to do with you anyway! Work hard, do you, and get on with it.
Get some perspective. It’s frustrating when our ambitions, or love, or whatever it is that you so desperately want, is taking it’s sweet time to come into our lives. But if you look at the bigger picture, it could probably be a lot worse couldn’t it? (The correct answer here is YES.)
4. Finally, it’s all going to be fine. Wherever it is you want to be you'll get there. So take a deep breath and rest safe in the words that hang above my bed. I’ll try to do the same.
Thanks for reading my second post. I’d love to hear from you, especially if you can relate to anything I’ve written about, so please feel free to leave comments. For anyone that’s interested, the artwork I’ve referred to is by Funny Tummy, go check him out.